tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post5399516113993926465..comments2023-06-02T09:10:16.304-04:00Comments on Thankful For Tanner: Things I need to sayJessmarie9http://www.blogger.com/profile/11039143364776800490noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-81936041880646309852010-04-20T10:57:20.626-04:002010-04-20T10:57:20.626-04:00Love the post, Jess! Your honesty and strength ar...Love the post, Jess! Your honesty and strength are admirable, but it's your overall positive energy, in every single one of your posts, that is inspiring. I love reading your blog and "sneaking" peeks into the lives of you and your beautiful family.JKilpattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10049973533603529015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-61931478663013383652010-04-20T06:53:19.205-04:002010-04-20T06:53:19.205-04:00Beautiful Jess! I didn't know you then, but I&...Beautiful Jess! I didn't know you then, but I'm proud to know the strong, amazing woman and mother you've become and we are all lucky to have you in our lives- especially Tanner! Love youKimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-21020420221978163902010-04-19T22:09:01.400-04:002010-04-19T22:09:01.400-04:00Jess, we talked about this when we first met, and ...Jess, we talked about this when we first met, and I admitted openly to the group the other day that had I known Kaylee's diagnosis, I would have aborted her. Given all that I knew from online research and given the past 11 years raising a mentally-challenged child, it would not have taken my husband or I long to come to that conclusion. That honestly scares me, now. It took me awhile to love Kaylee and accept her diagnosis, I cannot lie. I cried for the first month and fluctuated between acceptance and denial the second. But now-- I cannot picture my life without her. This support network is responsible for that (and ironically, I just posted my blog entry about that just before reading yours). I am thankful that God didn't reveal her challenges to me in utero because she is far from the child I expected her to be at this point. That said, I do still hold intense anger towards my doctors. That may seem contradictory and hypocritical to say, but I think it is the ineptitude that they failed to seek out the answers for her IUGR-- much like yours failed to do thorough testing-- that bothers me the most. They had a responsibility to provide complete care, and they "dropped the ball" on mine-- and yours. And as much as I do love Kaylee now, her future remains unknown and her needs have yet to surface. Love alone will not save a child from needing medical care, surgery, medication. Love alone will not keep us as parents from spending countless hours worrying about our children's health, their safety, and their future. I understand feeling as though God hated you-- I believed the same thing. But after spending time getting to know you, Lauren, Hannah, and the many others who have demonstrated such incredible faith and that indescribable bond and connection with your children, I see things differently. You are an inspiration to me, and when I feel down or sad about Kaylee, I think about you and your love for Tanner, and it brings me back to my happy place with her where I focus on who she is and not what she has. Thank you for being my friend in this journey. I love you!Kisses4Kayleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02269588619726459188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-41256943168608221042010-04-19T21:43:27.150-04:002010-04-19T21:43:27.150-04:00Jess ur such a strong person u take all everything...Jess ur such a strong person u take all everything that other people would be depressed about and look at all the good that has come out of it u r a beautiful person it takes a lot to do what u have to Do every day and u always have a smile on your face.... ur a inspiration to so many people!Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02953720205071029276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-12209212247500281052010-04-19T21:39:58.500-04:002010-04-19T21:39:58.500-04:00Jess,
You should never feel like you're not &q...Jess,<br />You should never feel like you're not "as good" as you pretend to be. You are what others should strive to be to their kids. The past is the past and it has made you into the most wonderful woman, mother, wife-to-be, sister and best friend anyone could ask for!! You do something that most could not deal with. You are fantastic and sometimes i think you're the only one who doesn't know it!! I love you!jenrenee9https://www.blogger.com/profile/01672692772489260550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-56184582622335187912010-04-19T20:00:39.903-04:002010-04-19T20:00:39.903-04:00I love your honesty. You are such a strong woman a...I love your honesty. You are such a strong woman and an amazing mom. I feel privileged to know you.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10267187739361880051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-27449052820625764732010-04-19T19:32:49.076-04:002010-04-19T19:32:49.076-04:00So, if you didn't already know (which I find h...So, if you didn't already know (which I find hard to believe)... I love you.<br /><br />Like the the great big, BFF forever kind of love you.<br /><br />:) Good post my friend.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04153660222239080504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-47014875683454631232010-04-19T19:17:17.247-04:002010-04-19T19:17:17.247-04:00Thank You For Giving Us Our baby Tanner. Love,POP_...Thank You For Giving Us Our baby Tanner. Love,POP_POP And Nonanonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06742881846114201707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8605927669143874142.post-27491728686407473372010-04-19T18:48:27.693-04:002010-04-19T18:48:27.693-04:00I love your honesty. Sometimes it feels really go...I love your honesty. Sometimes it feels really good to get it all off your chest - well it does to me anyway. I understand your frustration with the doctors after Tanner was born. I look back on my pregnancy with Dylan and see so many red flags it's crazy. They saw things wrong with his heart, growth, facial profile, but then I would have another ultrasound and they would say that everything looked fine now. I guess at the time I just never thought that it was possible for anything to be wrong with my baby. My poor doctor, he was in tears when I called to tell him what was wrong. He just kept saying how sorry he was. Here I am a labor & delivery nurse who has been delivering babies for 10 years and has only seen a handful of bad outcomes and then it happens to me. I had never heard of WHS and was completely shocked by the diagnosis. I often wonder what I would have done if I knew in advance. Honestly, I don't know. Dylan is such a joy to my life. He is just the sweetest, most loving little guy I could have ever asked for. I know exactly how you feel when you look at Tanner. It's funny too because Dylan was born right around the same time as Tanner and Riley. Gosh, we were all going through the same things at the same time - small world. If only we had known eachother, I wouldn't have felt so alone. <br /><br />I love all the pictures from the gathering. I am glad you all had such a wonderful time.Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08541278838169862574noreply@blogger.com